rewards are better


Loving your enemies.  Sounds easier said that done and honestly a little scary.  But it definitely does neither you or them any favors by holding onto anger or past hurts.  It doesn’t help you, it just turns you bittter and resentful over time – and who wants to be that!

I know for me there have been people who have let me down, who have disappointed me or not turned out how I expected. But holding onto it doesn’t allow you to move forward, it holds you back thinking about how it used to be or how they hurt you.

Often for me, it’s my own silent unconscious expectations I put on others that lead to me being disappointed. Because they are never going to live up to how I think they should act. That’s all on me!

Instead, I’ll be making strong steps forward to be kind and to just simply try. To be the one to reach out, not because I think it should be their turn or why not them and always me. Not for anything in return but because compassion should always be the response. Because I know the reward is going to be SO much greater in the end!


iron sharpens iron 

You Bible, verse of the day

Don’t you love the constant reminders through verse!

Even when you are tired and exhausted and the last thing you want to do is cook that dinner or fold those clothes, you are reminded that only good things come from being supportive to your spouse. Through actions, through speech, through kindness.

That good things come by looking for opportunities to sharpen one another, even through the tiredness and daily grind.


Clear vision

clear vision

Back in February we had a message at Church which spoke about Vision. Being clear on what you do want, not focusing on what you don’t want.

Vision is a great thing. It helps to keep you focused on what it is you are going to do next.

However, it is something which is a good and bad thing for someone struggling with infertility because you are completely clear on what you want. You want a child. You want a baby. My goodness, how many of you struggling with the same thing can just completely visualise you with a baby. Its incredibly lovely to think about.

But its also a struggle at times to think about. To visualise your life without one. It can be consuming and overwhelming.

The one thing this message taught me though, 2 months later and re-reading it now, is that its easy to be focused on our own visions. Our own wants. Our visions of what we want to happen can dictate our actions and indeed the direction you take next.

What we should be doing is focusing on God’s vision. On God’s word. We shouldn’t be relying on our own strength about what step to take next but to commit to Christs vision!

If we try to hang onto our perfect ideal of what our life should look like, you will lose it. You will lose focus, and possibly hope.

Instead, hang onto the vision of Christ. Push into Him with your prayers, your desires and your vision.

​For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.

Matthew 16:25 NIV

In this constant desire to have a family, I know I could NEVER be going through this journey in my own strength, without God.   Of course I have my perfect vision of what I want my life to be. The discussions hubby and I have had of how many children we will have and what their names will be have been endless. But I love constantly realising that its through Christ all these things are possible!

It’s in HIS vision, not my own!

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