that ‘little’ announcement

What a ride it’s been (and what a long time since I blogged its been!).

  • 6 years of trying for a baby, (3 x failed IUI’s) where we were told we would struggle to conceive naturally and that IVF was the only way (with male infertility & “ageing eggs”)
  • 1 1/2 years of being on the adoption journey and loving every step closer it got us to meeting our child

Then, in one positive pregnancy test, it all changes.  Our planning, our longing, our desires for children were coming, no matter how, they were coming.  We’ve always felt that no matter what, God would make us parents in some capacity.

And now….here we are, 14 weeks pregnant!!!

I don’t think I would have ever been able to close the door on adoption, its been too close to my heart with my dad and close family being adopted.  But I didn’t have to close that door, God did.  He had other plans.  Plans that are promised clear as day in His word.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

Our hopes of conception that were always constant, even though we were told otherwise.  Our hope that He knew, every step of the way.  He gave us comfort and a crazy peace and knowing that everything would work out how it was supposed to in the end.

That finding out, some 10 weeks ago now, was a day where my faith was just lifted to a different level.  Where feeling blessed didn’t compare with knowing we were blessed by the hands of God. Where believing reaches knew heights because He is perfect in all His ways!

“The Rock! His work is perfect, For all His ways are just; A God of faithfulness and without injustice, Righteous and upright is He. Deuteronomy 7:14 NIV

That we are now on a new journey which I am still comprehending but completely amazed by and can’t freakin wait for!!!  A journey with a baby due in April 2018 that is already off the charts in length, all thanks to a 6foot 7inch tall husband.  Bring on anything I say!




Clear vision

clear vision

Back in February we had a message at Church which spoke about Vision. Being clear on what you do want, not focusing on what you don’t want.

Vision is a great thing. It helps to keep you focused on what it is you are going to do next.

However, it is something which is a good and bad thing for someone struggling with infertility because you are completely clear on what you want. You want a child. You want a baby. My goodness, how many of you struggling with the same thing can just completely visualise you with a baby. Its incredibly lovely to think about.

But its also a struggle at times to think about. To visualise your life without one. It can be consuming and overwhelming.

The one thing this message taught me though, 2 months later and re-reading it now, is that its easy to be focused on our own visions. Our own wants. Our visions of what we want to happen can dictate our actions and indeed the direction you take next.

What we should be doing is focusing on God’s vision. On God’s word. We shouldn’t be relying on our own strength about what step to take next but to commit to Christs vision!

If we try to hang onto our perfect ideal of what our life should look like, you will lose it. You will lose focus, and possibly hope.

Instead, hang onto the vision of Christ. Push into Him with your prayers, your desires and your vision.

​For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.

Matthew 16:25 NIV

In this constant desire to have a family, I know I could NEVER be going through this journey in my own strength, without God.   Of course I have my perfect vision of what I want my life to be. The discussions hubby and I have had of how many children we will have and what their names will be have been endless. But I love constantly realising that its through Christ all these things are possible!

It’s in HIS vision, not my own!

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Path to Faith [my testimony]

With me heading to Cambodia next year with the SHE Rescue team, one of the activities we are asked to do is to share our testimony to a group of older children as well as also having to prepare two 30 minute discipleship messages too to a group of children and adults – praying on this one right now as its making me quite nervous!

I’ve been wanting to do this for a while however and have had several opportunities in the “real world” to share my testimony but always choked or worked myself out of telling it.   So I’d like to write it in an effort to help me get the words out and also to share my story of how I became a Christian (Skip to the end if you’d like the abridged version haha).

Growing up my sisters, mum and I attended Seventh Day Adventist Church for what I can remember as being a few years when I was quite young and was a part of Sunday School.  I remember singing songs ♪this little light of mine♫ etc and learning Bible stories as well as walking over to the “adult” church and sitting in the back pews listening to the very serious ominous sermons, to hymns as well as watching my Nan and Grandad sing along.  No harsh memories from it.  I actually remember enjoying it as a little girl.

I guess things change as you become a teenager and at times, I flitted between certain groups of people in high school, the nerds, the hippies, the goths, alone and although I had plenty of friends – I never felt like I belonged to a certain group….until I became good friends with a few in the “goths” group.  Very stereotyped I know.  Long story short I was always around talk of people not believing in God and openly saying he didn’t exist.   Something I went along with.  Never wanting to say my opinion out of fear that I would ‘lose’ friends or be alone.  Typical teenage behavior because of course you know you are different in some silly way to everyone else even though you are all the same.

This continued as I started a relationship straight out of school with someone in the group who I was friends with and he was there through one of the toughest times in my life, my dad passing away, and I clung to him because of this.

I spent the next 8 years of my life in a relationship with this person who vocally said they didn’t believe in God.  I went along with that knowing full well that I was turning away from Him – and I just ran further.

The thing is, I know I didn’t believe it….any of it!   I always knew God existed.  I couldn’t explain it any other way.   However I chose to ignore this.  I think partially because I didn’t fully understand what believing in God meant and also because I was around people who often blamed God for things that men/women had done.

I honestly always knew there was something missing in my life though yet I instead replaced it with parties, drinking and in the end, a relationship which nearly broke me after he cheated on me in our 8th year.

I felt alone.  Very alone and very wronged.  And I knew that something was still missing from my life – not the obvious that I wasn’t in a relationship anymore.  I knew it was God.  There was one stage when I’d been out clubbing and drinking with a new set of friends and came home and cried myself to sleep hoping that things would change and I’d feel happy again.  I knew I had to change and I was looking in all the wrong places in an effort to find it.

A chance to go to a party of people I’d never met before soon changed that and I went along and was lucky enough to meet my now husband there and I deeply and strongly believe and know that God led me to my husband so that my husband could lead me to God.

I knew he was a Christian though he never openly discussed it with me or talked about it to me or actually never said “come to church with me”.   He left to church and I stayed home.  Then one day, I just went with him.  And I went to church for the first time in over 20 years.   I took that leap and went one time because I loved my husband and wanted to be involved in what he was doing and to see what it was like.


And I’ve been going back ever since.    Though it took me a little while to get used to this “non traditional” singing (there were no hymns!!) and all the hands in the air!  It was definitely foreign to me.

Just over a year after that, in May this year I was water baptised (see my video here)…which was such an emotional moment for me I’ll never forget it.  In the words of one of the men who lay me into the water and came up to me and pulled me aside afterwards.  “you were such a heavy weight when we lent you back into the water it was hard to hold you and when you came back up you were so light like you weighed nothing”.  I felt the exact same thing.  it was also great in that there were some Pastors there ready to speak to you about what God was saying to them about this moment and some kind words from my brother in law about Faith.  Such a moment to be surrounded by my family and great people.

I guess my point is that I knew where I should be and ran from it.  And as much as you can run away from something, it will always find you.  It’s just that in your effort to run away from something, you choose a road which ends up being full of bumps and dead end roads filled with emotionally heartbreaking decisions.   When it doesn’t have to be like that – there was a clear path for me and I knew it.  I knowingly turned away.  I know that now – because God was all around me in so many ways.  

I ended up running away from my faith and making bad decisions when I knew I’d end up being here all along. And I didn’t have to go through all that heartache to get here if I just had turned towards the Lord and followed His voice.   

My husband likes to compare my journey to Jonah and the Whale.   Jonah disobeyed what the Lord had told him to do and headed in the opposite direction even though he knew he should be where he was told – yet he went as far away from where he was supposed to go as possible.    It took him through a violent storm and  into the belly of a whale for 3 days and 3 nights, all the while knowing full well that he was openly running away from the Lord.

My life has changed in so many ways since I came to Christ and I am filled with a renewed sense of happiness and peace in my heart that I’ve never EVER had before.  I no longer fear death and I am constantly amazed at how God is working in my life and those around me.  I love that I am still growing into my faith, learning constantly and getting to know all that our Lord Jesus Christ has done for us is just blowing my mind.

The weight has definitely been lifted and to know that I, for now and forever, have someone by my side to love me unconditionally and forgive all my disbelief – is worth the journey!


01/12/2013 6:44am
 This is so cool! I love that He is always just waiting with His arms wide open, desiring us to run back to Him! So glad you did!!! xoxo
01/12/2013 6:12pm
oooo thanks Caroline 😀 me too!!
03/12/2013 4:18am
 What a beautiful story of God’s redeeming love. Our testimonies are our love stories showing how deeply God has cared for us over the years. No matter where we are or how far we run we cannot hide from his love. God is so good!!! Thanks for sharing this Finley!
12/12/2013 8:04pm
Thanks Charity. It often felt like such a big thing for me to share my story both verbally and written but once I started it all just flowed and I’m so proud of my journey cause it has a pretty darn good result 🙂
03/12/2013 2:48pm
 Love reading your story girl! Such an amazing one! THank you for sharing.
12/12/2013 8:05pm
 Thanks for reading Angela!!! it’s a nice feeling to realise my walk and definitely helping me to be able to express my story better when it comes time next year 🙂
04/12/2013 7:40am
 Such a beautiful testimony! Our stories are super similar 🙂 I just love how God totally CHOOSES His children, and He will chase us to the end of the earth with such patience. I’m going to Uganda in January, and I have to practice my testimony, too! I’ll be praying for you as you prepare for your trip! ❤
12/12/2013 8:01pm
Oh thanks Amy. How fab we have similar stories! 

wow Uganda how awesome! Would love to hear what sort of prep you’ve been doing and what you will be doing over there! Heading over to your blog now to stalk hehe

04/12/2013 5:43pm
I love your testimony! It’s so amazing to hear how Jesus can come in and put your entire life right in order and you finally feel whole. I know exactly how you felt and went through a similar situation of knowing I was missing something! God knows how to get your attention and put the right people into your life! It fills me with joy to read stories like this! So happy for you and your salvation!
12/12/2013 8:03pm
Oh thanks lovely Jena. Its a lovely feeling of realisation and I’ve become a better woman for it thats for sure! Love that we went through similar 🙂
10/07/2014 1:57am
I really think it’s so cool how you said you felt like God led you to your husband so your husband could lead you to God. You have a beautiful story of redemption, and I’m glad you shared!